The Human Dietlemna !!
One of the things that I’ve learned is, to put on the new person, instead of coming from the person who wants to lose weight, start being the person who makes choices that reflect the person you want to be.”
I came accross this quote from Mary Morrissey this morning and, although it’s about weight, I think it contains a great secret to creating any change we want in our lives. It can really be applied to any habit that is causing us problems pain and discomfort.
That’s part of the human condition isn’t it. Just part of being human.
We all have internal struggles of one kind or another going on. For some people it shows up in more obvious ways like excess body weight for others it can be being the other extreem – being too thin. And some people are stuggling with habits that lead to ill health. The reason we call it a struggle is because no matter how much we think we want to change a habit or situation we often fall flat on our face at some stage of that attempt to ‘change’.
Why is not as easy “as I now realise I am over weight so I am going to loose the exccess weight” and just do what is necessary to do that?
Have you ever decided to change some destructive behavour permanently and succeeded immediately?
That’s what we expect ourselves to do though, isn’t it. I think this can be done – but only eventually. If you find someone who says that they just decided to change something and it changed overnight – you’ll find that on other occassions they had ‘failed’ ( no such thing as failure – only feedback) So part of the change and the healing is the journey of- start -stop- fail -succeed – fail- CHANGE…Yippee!!
The important thing here is that we can change. But only when we give ourselves the understanding that lies behind all change. Ifthe behavour is something that we find difficult to change then it is something that at one time gave us comfort and pleasure- so it was something that we lliked and spent a long time cultivating it. It is this dynamic that has to change . In other words, the energy dynamic is what we are changing for PERMANENT CHANGE to happen. So we are human and this means that our pain pleasure buttons have gotten all mixed up. They are crosswired – so instead of doing the things I want to do I do the opposite – even with the knowledege that it is distructive for me.
Even Saint Paul mentions this – the human delemna. ” ”
This statement names it and understand our delemna..
That’s why to make good choices, and so healthier behavours we have to rewire the pain pleasure circuits. We have to work at this deeper level of our psyches. We have to look inside not outside at advertisments for the next quick fix diet. There is no quick fix for the human condition. But there is the beautiful invitation to learn about YOU.
When you start this journey from the inside you will genuinely find the person you want to become. Not only tha,t but you’ll find that you are already that person deep inside. You just need to spend some time looking for her and then following her guidance so that you reveal the beauty that is really you.
So that’s what this little quote is advising and guiding us to do. It’s asking that you go inside and find and connect with that inner person that you want to become and start from the
advise that you find there. Then you will easily make the choices that reveal this INNER YOU. Wheither that’s a thinner you, or a more sufficated you or a successful you or a kind you you already are that YOU.
The healing dynamic that is left out of all commercial answers to weight loss products is the dynamic of connection with the Mind Body Soul and Spirit. That’s who you are. You are not just a physical body. You are a dynamic person with hopes dreams inmagination and feelings, living your life with purpose.
Remember your angels constant whisper to your soul ” you are beautiful – there is no blemish in you” ( Song of songs)
” We see the beauty in you”.
Just Ask them to show this to you to help you see what they see and to overcome any negative self image you are allowing into your life.
To help with this inner connection to your beautiful self a combination of Hypnotherapy and Spiritual therapy is both easy and extreemly effective. It will help you see the person you truly are.It will help you develop your inner eye and inner knowlege and compassion. You will see the change you want to see on the outside.
With much Love, Mary
Now back to watching all the beautiful people here in Ireland – The lovely Barack and Michelle and our Graceful President Mary and Handsome Taoiseach
Taoiseach Enda.
